So a few months ago Em asked me a question. “How do you NOT nag P?”
Now, my sweet hubband and I have only been married for a little over 6 months, and this is an issue that I struggle with all the time. (Note: This is not something that he struggles with, he merely endures it.) I, as a middle child with 7 siblings, am used to nagging. To nag is to make sure whatever it is gets done. Otherwise you would have to do whatever it is yourself. And unfortunately I am not capable of doing the things that P needs to do. (Unlike the things I bother my siblings about…)
Some of these things include papers that need to be written (in a MAJOR way), classes that need to be prepared, clothes that need folded, research that needs to be finished, and waking up so he isn’t late for work.. I’m not saying that my husband is irresponsible or unreliable. I’m not. I’m saying that P has a nasty, awful habit of procrastinating until the last possible moment.
So, how do I deal with this? I nag sometimes.
Some of the time I try to be a respectful adult and remember that he’s an adult and knows that there are some pretty hefty consequences if he doesn’t complete the task.
And the rest of the time (especially when it’s a task for me) I give him a deadline when I ask him to do the task in the first place. (This one works the best. Sometimes.)
And some of the time I remind him that I’m not cuddling with him until he’s done.
(This is a failsafe.)
Mostly though, I just try to stay busy myself. That way P doesn’t have anyone to get distracted by in our tiny apartment.
But to be honest. I do nag P.
The amazing thing is just how long he can take it before he's irritated. Really, truly, amazing.
Hubband? I love you. Sorry about the nagging yesterday. I’ll make it up to you with treats today. Okay?